Sunday, August 24, 2025

Real Talk #9 - Healing Isn’t Linear, but It Still Requires Direction

 



Healing isn’t a straight line. We all know that.

But just because it’s not linear doesn’t mean it’s random.

When we talk about healing, there’s often a misconception that it should be a neat and tidy journey, a straight road from pain to peace. In reality, healing is anything but predictable. It’s filled with detours, setbacks, and moments where it feels like you’re walking in circles. But just because the path isn’t straight doesn’t mean it’s aimless. Healing requires us to intentionally steer ourselves toward growth, even when the steps are small or invisible to others.

The process can feel frustrating. Some days you might feel on top of the world, making progress and moving forward. On others, old wounds resurface, and you wonder if you’ve gone backward. This ebb and flow is natural. What matters most is not that every day looks like progress, but that you’re generally moving in a direction that serves your well-being. Healing asks for patience and self-compassion, reminding us that each twist and turn is part of the bigger picture.

Having direction means holding a gentle sense of purpose. It’s not about rigid goals or forcing yourself to “get over it” by a certain date. Instead, it’s about tuning in to your needs and honoring your own pace. It’s knowing that even when you can’t see the results yet, your efforts are laying the groundwork for transformation. Healing isn’t about perfection, it’s about movement, intention, and trusting that you’re finding your way, one step at a time.


If you’re bouncing between the same wounds without intention, that’s not healing. That’s looping.

Healing requires direction. Not control. Not perfection. Direction.

It asks: What are you working on right now? What’s the next layer? How will you know when to pause, pivot, or dig deeper?

It’s okay to spiral. But spiral upward. Spiral with purpose.

Healing can be messy. But it still needs movement.

Otherwise, you’re just busy with your pain not growing from it.


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