Real Talk #2 - The Universe Isn’t Testing You—You’re Just Not Changing Your Pattern

 

Let’s clear something up right now.

The Universe is not some cosmic school principal handing out pop quizzes to see if you’re “ready” to ascend. Most of the time, what we call a “test” is just a pattern we haven’t interrupted. Not divine punishment. Not karma in real time. Just repetition.

If you keep attracting the same kind of relationship, job, or chaos, it’s not because the Universe is trying to teach you a lesson. It’s because you haven’t made a different choice yet. That’s not judgment—it’s liberation. It means you have agency.

Spiritual folks love to talk about “lessons” and “signs,” but too often, that becomes an excuse to avoid responsibility. The pattern shows up, you feel stuck, and instead of changing behavior, you look up and say, “Why is this happening *again*?”

Because you haven’t interrupted the loop.

Patterns persist when they’re comfortable, familiar, or serving a hidden function. Sometimes the pattern is keeping you safe. Sometimes it’s letting you off the hook. Sometimes it’s just what you’re used to. But calling it a “test” gives your power away.

Shadow work asks: What am I doing to keep this cycle alive?

This isn’t about blaming yourself. It’s about waking up. It’s about owning your role in what you recreate, so you can choose something else. And yeah, it’s hard. Changing patterns means discomfort, risk, and probably screwing it up the first few times.

But it’s worth it.

You’re not being tested. You’re being invited. Again and again. The question is: are you ready to answer differently this time?

Patterns don’t change by hoping. They change by choice. Even when it’s messy. Especially then.